What to Do When You Have No Idea What to Do With Your Life

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Posted By: Sweety Rai

Thu, Aug 4th, 2016

The pressure to figure out what you’re doing with your life starts early—and it begins as almost a joke. “What do you want to be when you grow up?” your parents ask 4-year-old you, mostly because it’s cute to see tiny humans rattle off improbable career choices. But now that the real decision is upon you, you’re feeling paralyzed when it comes to what’s next.

The problem here isn’t that you have to choose something; it’s that the way we frame the choosing makes the answer seem so final: Pick a career, start running at it headlong and hope it holds. But this approach doesn’t allow for the natural twists, turns and course-changes that are part of the journey. And it leaves you feeling guilty if you do end up veering off course.

But here’s the thing: When you ask successful people, most of them didn’t have a vision of exactly where they would end up. But they started taking little steps—not always in the right direction at first—that led them to where they are now.

Take NASA’s Adam Steltzner—he directs Mars rover landings. Before he was ever landing very expensive state-of-the-art equipment on faraway planets, he was a music school dropout in San Francisco. The journey from lost to landing rovers on Mars seems huge when you think of it as one leap. But it all started one night when Adam looked up at the sky and noticed that the stars weren’t in the same place they’d started.

To find out why, he signed up for an astronomy class. But what came first was physics, which introduced him to the natural world as beautiful and knowable. That discovery kept him pushing through challenging material—even when he wasn’t very good at it yet—until he’d finished his Ph.D. in engineering mechanics and gotten a job at NASA’s Jet Propulsion Laboratory. At NASA, he started getting sent all of the weirdest, hardest problems and soon he found himself in a new department at JPL: the one that handled landings. He’s since landed multiple rovers. It happened over many years, but it all started when he looked up at the sky, asked a question and took the first step toward answering it.

To alleviate the overwhelming pressure you’re feeling about having it all figured out, consider Adam’s journey and try reframing the question as, “What should I try first?” or “What question do I want to know more about?” If you embrace the idea that there’s no set endpoint and no plan that you can plot out perfectly—only the one that you’ll see when you look back—then you’re free to follow your interests and focus on what you’re doing right now.

If you’re feeling unsure about what that first step is, here are a few small things you can do right now to get started:

Follow people who are doing the things you’re interested in.2

More than ever before, you can get an inside look at industries and jobs without being an insider. When you follow someone doing intriguing work in an industry you’re interested in—whether on Twitter or elsewhere—you open up a whole world full of people and ideas that you wouldn’t have otherwise discovered. You’ll find out what those in the know are reading and suggesting, who they’re talking to and what they’re saying—you can even join in—and this is all valuable when trying to decide if the nitty-gritty of a job or industry is right for you.

Dip into subjects that interest you, for free.

There’s no shortage of lectures, Q&A’s and interviews with leaders in fields you’re interested in online. Seek them out. You can also learn about different jobs and industries by taking a free class on Khan Academy, Coursera, iTunes or Udemy; subscribing to a podcast; or livestreaming a conference that’s focused on the newest topics in an industry you want to learn more about.

Find a friend who’s searching, too.

Accountability inspires action. Find a friend who’s in the same boat as you, and check in with each other regularly; or if no one’s coming to mind, announce your goals to friends, in person or online. When you set goals, make them specific by assigning a deadline or saying how often or how much of something you’ll do. And set goals that seem easier to accomplish than you think they should be—this way you’re more likely to keep at it. (Plus, an excellent byproduct of making your goals known is that friends might send you job, volunteer or internship opportunities you wouldn’t have otherwise heard about. After all, most jobs are found through networking.)

Keep a record of your progress by taking notes or keeping a journal of ideas you have, the things you’ve tried and how you feel about them. 

Then try answering “What do you want to be when you grow up?” one more time.

Self-Confidence Secrets To Instantly Stop Feeling Inferior

Sunday, August 16th, 2015

Self-Confidence Secrets To Instantly Stop Feeling Inferior 

It’s soul-destroying, isn’t it?

Feeling inferior transforms every day into just one more crushing experience.

Another day on the sidelines losing hope that you’ll never get your turn to shine, or even fit in.

It leaves you consumed with self-disappointment.

It’s no wonder you feel insignificant, inadequate, a total bother to others.

Inferiority is a hideous place to be. Oh boy, it’s hell.

I was trapped there for the greater part of my life, until my thirties. Then I decided to work out what made me feel so much less confident than everyone else.

Thankfully, I beat inferiority into submission.

So let me show you how to coax your self-confidence out of the corner and say howdy to your positive self-belief.

1. Gain Self-Confidence By Being Your Self.

Find your self-identity and find your self-confidence.

Self-confidence. There’s a clue in the word. It’s self confidence, not some other person‘s confidence. Once you start being yourself, you will stop feeling inferior in any situation.

Remember, the only thing NO ONE on this planet can do better than you … is be YOU. Only Dr. Seuss put it much better:

“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You!”

Or if you prefer:

Oscar Wilde said, “Be yourself. Everyone else is taken.”

No, I don’t know you, but I can promise if we ever meet, I will prefer you as the authentic you. You are doing the world a disservice by hiding your true self.

Secret to self-confidence #1:

You will always be a poor imitation of anyone else. Stop hankering after being someone you’re not. Be yourself. Be unique.

2. Know That Inferiority Is A Choice. So Is Equality.

So the first thing we need to be clear on here is that feeling inferior is normal. Why? Because it shows that you aren’t deluded.

Let’s be honest; most of us are inferior to someone in some way.

Last time I checked my bank account, I was financially inferior to most people on the Forbes 400 list – ok, everyone on the list.

You see, the need for validation is a normal, healthy aspect of being human. But seeking validation by comparing yourself to others is a poor tool for building self-confidence. There will always be areas where you feel inferior, rightly, or even wrongly.

Why? Because most of us have a tendency to focus on the negative, which translates into noticing our perceived inferiorities and overlooking our strengths.

So unless your actual life aim is to be richer than Bill Gates or Warren Buffett, stay away from comparisons in all fields.

By refusing to compare yourself to others, you’re choosing equality over inferiority.

Remember, no one on this earth is less important or valuable than any other human being … unless they decide they are.

Secret to self-confidence #2:

Stop comparing yourself to others. Focus on your own ideals when measuring your strengths and weaknesses. We are all as valid as each other in our own way.

3. Take Yourself Out Of The Equation.

What? Having told you to find your self-identity and be yourself, I’m now telling you to forget about you altogether?

Not exactly.

What I’m saying is that when confronted by someone who has previously left you feeling inferior, focus on them and them alone.

Leave yourself outside the door.

By devoting your full attention to the other person, you will have the headspace to hear what they are honestly saying, at the very heart of their words. Listen hard; you’ll hear their own fears, worries, insecurities and disappointments articulated.

You’ll have the capacity to clearly observe their body language. Watch carefully; you’ll see their own nerves, stress points, frustrations, and deep-down desires acted out.

They will inadvertently reveal the real them, right there, laid bare in front of you. And you know, you probably won’t recognize them as the superior being you previously held them up to be.

In fact, you’re more likely to see them as a person, just like you. An imperfect human being. Equal maybe, but not superior.

Secret to self-confidence #3:

Take yourself out of the equation. Focus on the other person, and see what imperfections they reveal. You’ll find a vulnerable human being, just like you.

Get rid of your feelings of inferiority once and for all

Small, simple changes to your thinking can break the negative cycle of feeling inferior for good.

Imagine feeling confident talking to anyone.

Imagine feeling part of the group, a valued contributor.

Imagine never pretending again. Imagine actually being YOU.

Stop letting your feelings of inferiority overpower you. Fight back with these powerful tips to give you the self-confidence you need to rock your world.

Source: http://www.pickthebrain.com/

Difficulties in your life don’t come to destroy you , but to help you realize your hidden potential.

Friday, 24th April, 2015

Written By : Sweety Rai

You are meant to live your purpose. Joy, love, connection and abundance are your destiny.

But you’ll never get there if you always stop when you feel overwhelmed. Stopping is the last thing you want to do.

Don’t give up. Just learn the spiritual lesson, and you will start to master feeling overwhelmed.

And when you master the feeling of overwhelm, you are on a fast track to living the life you truly want to live.

Let’s learn the spiritual lesson that’s trying to work it’s way into your life. Leave a comment and let’s discover how you can begin to apply this lesson NOW.

And, if you've had success overcoming overwhelm, leave a comment and share your success story with us.

Together – we can grow into who we’re meant to be.

watch the best motivational video and remember 

"YOU ARE THE CHAMPION, YOU ARE UNIQUE AND NOBODY CAN REPLACE YOU".

Big LOVE,
Sweety